Just live the life you want, do whatever you like. I know it’s never easy but we do have the choice to do it or not.
I’m having an eight month long holidays now, and I’m resting like mad at home, slacking, sleeping, watching tv, surfing net, playing games, shopping with mum, cooking and baking for friends and family, doing whatever I wish to do the moment I woke up in the very very late afternoon. This kind of life makes some people envy, but on the other hand, I had to deal with comments I would definitely don’t like to hear.
“Why don’t you work?”
“Aren’t you bored at home?”
“Don’t you need money?”
And something else from my same batch of friends who’re having the same long vacation, every time when I asked them how they’re doing, shall we meet for tea or a meal, this is what I usually get, “We have to work, not like you!”
That’s definitely not a nice comment which implying me as a parasite or something, indirectly.
I did try to work when the long vacation just started, together with that group of friends. It’s a terrible factory job that requires us to work for 12hours, just to get paid less than 50bucks each day. What I can’t stand most about that job is not the sweat and effort I have to put in for that miserable sum of money but the monotonous nature of the job. We retreated after 3days. After which they started to get their own temporary jobs, while I went to HK for a holiday.
I was busy flipping the papers for job the moment I came back. I don’t want to be left out, and definitely don’t want to be seen as a parasite or slacker at home. Until I had a meal with a lecturer, I realized what I really need was nothing but a rest.
I really do need a rest, to recover from the one whole year of slogging without a decent vacation. This applied to emotionally too. It’s a terrible year that I experienced many eventful things and I got tired, hurt, lost during the process. I really need that 8 months to nurse myself.
Somehow my lecturer’s words do gave me the strength to block off the comments I don’t like to hear (haha!). I felt myself being understood, and those who give me such uneasy comments were those who don’t really understand me, somehow.
So, the moral of the story is Be Yourself.
Stop working when you feel tired. You don’t have to slog like mad at work just to prove that you live in straitened circumstances. Cuz even if you do, who will care? Everyone out there fends for themselves.
Spend time with your beloved ones whenever you think of them. They can be the biggest and more genuine supports in life. (“Too busy to go home,” is just a heartless excuse beasts give)
And I believe loving your own job doesn’t mean you don’t love yourself, your family or love playing. We drew lines inside us, on when to work, when what to do to dote on yourself, when and how are we going to spend time with our family and when to play. Therefore, it’s how we see ourselves and not how others see us, because they don’t rule us and we shouldn’t get rule by whatever comment they make.
Nothing and no one can guarantee if we play by “the rule”, we’ll get promotions or get rich. Enrichment in life is always better than those superficial things people always pursue. Live happy will make you richer than anything else. Try it, it’s free. :)
Oh by the way, I baked Nutella Cupcakes yesterday and it’s really nice, even though it’s sinful. Hahaha.. Would you like to have the recipe? :P
Sorry for the long comment made. I hope everything I shared with you could make you feel better in any little way. Take care. :D
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Candy,
Just live the life you want, do whatever you like. I know it’s never easy but we do have the choice to do it or not.
I’m having an eight month long holidays now, and I’m resting like mad at home, slacking, sleeping, watching tv, surfing net, playing games, shopping with mum, cooking and baking for friends and family, doing whatever I wish to do the moment I woke up in the very very late afternoon. This kind of life makes some people envy, but on the other hand, I had to deal with comments I would definitely don’t like to hear.
“Why don’t you work?”
“Aren’t you bored at home?”
“Don’t you need money?”
And something else from my same batch of friends who’re having the same long vacation, every time when I asked them how they’re doing, shall we meet for tea or a meal, this is what I usually get, “We have to work, not like you!”
That’s definitely not a nice comment which implying me as a parasite or something, indirectly.
I did try to work when the long vacation just started, together with that group of friends. It’s a terrible factory job that requires us to work for 12hours, just to get paid less than 50bucks each day. What I can’t stand most about that job is not the sweat and effort I have to put in for that miserable sum of money but the monotonous nature of the job. We retreated after 3days. After which they started to get their own temporary jobs, while I went to HK for a holiday.
I was busy flipping the papers for job the moment I came back. I don’t want to be left out, and definitely don’t want to be seen as a parasite or slacker at home. Until I had a meal with a lecturer, I realized what I really need was nothing but a rest.
“觉得累的话，就躺在床上‘瘫’。尽情的‘瘫’、什么都别去管的‘瘫’。知道你觉得自己ready为止。要知道当你开始工作时，不会再有如此长的假期。”
I really do need a rest, to recover from the one whole year of slogging without a decent vacation. This applied to emotionally too. It’s a terrible year that I experienced many eventful things and I got tired, hurt, lost during the process. I really need that 8 months to nurse myself.
Somehow my lecturer’s words do gave me the strength to block off the comments I don’t like to hear (haha!). I felt myself being understood, and those who give me such uneasy comments were those who don’t really understand me, somehow.
So, the moral of the story is Be Yourself.
Stop working when you feel tired. You don’t have to slog like mad at work just to prove that you live in straitened circumstances. Cuz even if you do, who will care? Everyone out there fends for themselves.
Spend time with your beloved ones whenever you think of them. They can be the biggest and more genuine supports in life. (“Too busy to go home,” is just a heartless excuse beasts give)
And I believe loving your own job doesn’t mean you don’t love yourself, your family or love playing. We drew lines inside us, on when to work, when what to do to dote on yourself, when and how are we going to spend time with our family and when to play. Therefore, it’s how we see ourselves and not how others see us, because they don’t rule us and we shouldn’t get rule by whatever comment they make.
Nothing and no one can guarantee if we play by “the rule”, we’ll get promotions or get rich. Enrichment in life is always better than those superficial things people always pursue. Live happy will make you richer than anything else. Try it, it’s free. :)
Oh by the way, I baked Nutella Cupcakes yesterday and it’s really nice, even though it’s sinful. Hahaha.. Would you like to have the recipe? :P
Sorry for the long comment made. I hope everything I shared with you could make you feel better in any little way. Take care. :D
Cheers,
Mojako
Thank you for your long long comment, can I have your email? I just think sometimes we might share.
Sure, my email/msn is mojako_ymz@hotmail.com
Look forward to hear from you soon :D
dear candy，今日聽演講正好學到了一句座右銘，跟妳分享一下:)
Your altitude almost always determination your life altitude - 你的態度決定了你人生的高度
原文我有些不確定，但中文翻譯我倒是記得很清楚。嗯...人生的高度可能定義各有不同，但我想對生活有份積極樂觀的態度應該是相同的。每個人都希望自己能夠輕鬆愉快的賺錢工作過生活，但是似乎大多數的人對於工作都會有著很多的倦怠!?
或許是因為現實的壓榨吧。以製造業為例，現在產業界若不努力死做活做一年上班三百六十日晚晚回家還得開OT的人，大概也會被老闆認為是個不願配合的懶散份子，分分鐘都會被列入"優退"名單吧。嗯有些離題了，以上說的悽慘案例感覺好像就是我的未來 囧rz
不過Candy...小白一直都認為妳真的名符其實是我人生的偶像呢(羞)，在我印象中，妳就是很有自我主張又勇於追求夢想的一個人。一個人能有才華又有目標，又能做自己喜歡做的工作，真是可遇而不可求:D
雖然可能妳還有份正職，生活像是蠟燭兩頭燒。但我想這些過程早晚都會經歷過去的，別忘了還有很多人支持著pixeltoy呢。妳是獨一無二的，希望妳能夠振作起來再度笑的開懷:D
Please Please Please take care yourself (L)
其實我都對呢個問題充滿了無限的疑問（果然同一個年代出生的人感受是大同小異的，哈哈），畢竟自己宜家還是一個毫無工作經驗的大學一年級生，就算讓我發表也只能夠搬出果D諸如世界大氣候、市場經濟、社會學之類泛泛而談。僅憑有生以來的人生閱歷，唯一能夠講：人的一生除咗基本生理活動以外，其他東西有80%以上都是受制于人（或者系依靠别人而活）。要怪就怪我地唔系普通低等動物，免費享受大自然的恩赐，反而要活在以我们的“聰明才智”建立起一層又一層，一環緊扣一環的複雜結構中，被绑得死死的。不过你要對自己講：“堅持一下就會過去啦！”樂觀生活啊,成日愁眉苦臉係寫唔出好歌！
這問題，我也很想知道答案。
有人曾跟我說，要有工作要才有價值感，這句話我完全不認同啊!!!
為何我們總是要為了五斗米而折腰，犧牲自己所有的時間只為了得到虛偽的升職。等到爬上
了頂端，最後我們留下了什麼、得到了什麼。
每當這種疑惑問題出來時，心底就會有另種聲音告訴我：有得工作總比那些失業人士好，就
安分些吧。
雖然幸運的是，我不用日日OT，但每日的積怨下來，假日也無法安心度過，反而是總恐懼，
恐懼著度過星期日之後又是壓力的到來。
我並不想賺大錢，我只想可以做著自己喜歡的事情，但現在卻已經連我最喜歡的事情都已經
不知道是什麼了。
寫到這突然發覺好像變成我在抱怨。哈。一時不注意就打了這些。
或許你需要的是放個假，哈，就像你們的那首歌喘一口氣所寫的--我需要離開原有的比例
喘一口氣。
雖然不一定可以有長假期，想個辦法請個假(或是翹班，哈，說笑的),出去散散心、放空自
己，這些都是好的。
也許目前的工作不如意，但至少你有著另一份你所熱愛的工作，生活之中也有著另個目標可
以前進，雖然路途辛苦點。既然有些事情可能無法改變，那就想辦法讓自己過的更快樂些。
take care
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